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Opportunity of Opposition

Tough conversations happen all the time. What are some tools to help you navigate conversations with your team to continue on the path of growth and keep the situation from derailing?

Overcoming conflict as a team
Overcoming conflict as a team

Preparedness is Key in Tough Conversations

Confrontation. Tough talks. Crucial conversations (Grenny, Switzler, McMillan). The idea of having a tough conversation in any interpersonal context is enough to send someone into a stress sweat. But why? As humans, we resist what we don’t know. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about. In fact, if your brain is doing that for you, then kudos. Your brain is doing a great job at keeping you alive. The point is, the idea of having these tough conversations can be so stressful because we feel ill-equipped to handle them well. Now, of course, even the most gifted of communicators can go into a tough meeting and speak with all the tips and tricks they have gathered, and the person receiving the message can still respond out of anger. The real kicker is that people are unpredictable. We do not know how someone will react to bad news, criticism and the like. But what if you had some tools to help prepare you for these conversations? What about conversations that didn’t start out heated, but you blinked and now realize you have a coworker/employee that is furious and so are you? We have all been there. With the help of our author friends Joseph Grenny, Al Switzler and Ron McMillan (authors of Crucial Conversations), we can provide some tips and tricks for you to best navigate these situations.

Are You in a *Crucial Conversation*?

First, ask yourself if you’re in a crucial conversation. Are there opposing viewpoints? Is there a lot at stake, and are the emotions high? If you can answer yes to at least 2 out of 3 of these, chances are you have found yourself in a crucial conversation. The next thing to understand is that this is OKAY! You won’t always agree. In fact, having an opportunity of opposition can be a great thing. It can give a glimpse into how much concern there is for the work. In other words, it’s really hard to be passionate about something you’re apathetic about. These situations pose an opportunity for closure and bonding through resolution and the opportunity to create a pool of shared meaning. People feel emotionally attached and supportive to systems they can see their “fingerprints” on. If you are creating opportunities for inclusion, even if it came out of a heated discussion, this will turn out to be a very favorable endeavor in the long run.

What Do You Want?

Another question to ask yourself is, what do I want out of this situation? If you find yourself in a position where you are about to unload on your coworker/employee, take a second to ask yourself that question. Certainly, your answer to that question will not be “I want to absolutely berate this human being, really teach them a lesson.” If instead, you can answer, “I want each of us and our company to profit through our efforts. How can we make that happen?” Pursue that! You should always be in the business of mutual profitability (More about that in another blog post, so stay tuned).

Your Employees Are Humans, First

Lastly, be empathetic and ask questions. You have asked yourself several questions to this point, and good for you. By asking yourself these questions, you have certainly saved this conversation from completely going off the rails and avoid creating bitterness and division amongst your teams. Here’s the thing. Somewhere along the way, we forgot that our coworkers/employees are human beings before they are a timecard and production machine. What does it cost you to be a little more patient, to dig a little deeper and trust their perspective? If you are a CEO, supervisor, really anyone that leads people, you have the fortunate responsibility of looking out for others. You owe your people the dignity to pursue them as individuals, as well as pursue a mutually profitable scenario at all costs. You will have to humble yourself. You will have to trust your people more; and if you do this consistently, I guarantee you production and engagement will skyrocket.

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